Indigo Coach

One of the most frequent questions I hear from people is, “How do you know if you are an Adult Indigo?” Or “I thought this was only about the kids. How could an adult be one?” I hope this post answers your questions — and gives you some “food for thought.”

First of all, the question wouldn’t even come up unless someone has a deep identification with the traits and characteristics that distinguish Indigos. (Feel free to take the Indigo assessment here to find out where you fall within a range of common Indigo traits and characteristics.) So one would wonder, where is that identification coming from?

Secondly, I sometimes hear the statement from people in their 4th, 5th or 6th decades that “I’m too old to be Indigo.” Not so. Here’s why. The early Indigos (and I am one of them; maybe you are too!) were pretty much “in hiding” until the 1980’s when the next BIG wave of children began to arrive. Until then, it was dangerous in a million ways for us to reveal who we are and what our soul mission is here.

Why is that important to know? First of all, if someone is “in hiding” then they are not likely to reveal themselves to others, except perhaps for a very small circle of trusted friends or family members. How would the world know about us if we didn’t want to be discovered? (And trust me, we didn’t!)

Secondly, when the large wave of new Indigo children came in (and here I’m talking about millions of Indigo babies being born into families all around the world), the energy field upon which we adult Indigos have depended grew more stable. We did not need to rely solely on the intricate and thin web of Light that we had built with our own systems and knowledge. (And yes, there was such a web, before the large one we all created together later!) The new wave allowed us to relax, begin to reveal our Light, wisdom and stories — and be supported for it more than was ever possible before that time.

Thirdly, for many of us, our “real work” only began as soon as the big wave of Indigos came in during the 1980s. Many of us were just marking time, doing the best we could with our circumstances, often feeling adrift, until the ’80’s. when suddenly it might have felt that we were somehow called forward or awakened from a dormant state, our true mission “activated” at last. (Note: I don’t mean this to sound fatalistic, because it isn’t. We all had our assignments when we got here; it’s just that for many of us, the assignment didn’t start until we were several decades old — if that makes any sense. If you are one of the adult Indigos for whom this is true, you will immediately understand what I’m talking about here.)

Finally, we who came in first have been pathmakers. We prepared the energetic field for the others. We were truly like “linebackers” energetically — we cleared much energy, made many preparations, and “took the hits” that might have devastated the younger ones later on. We raised the collective vibration where possible, and engaged with our missions as best we were able. There were no guides. There were no signposts. Imagine what that must have been like, if you can: like being behind enemy lines in a hostile and dangerous territory. doing work upon which all life on this planet might one day require for its very existence. Los Ingognitos: that’s who we were. And we came in gladly, knowing that this is how it would be when we got here.

Were some of the hippies of the 1960’s early Indigos? By and large, no. They had a different role, mission and purpose. The Indigos who came in during this time recognized the hippie movement as a necessary energetic wave — and a few got caught in the drug scene and were lost during that time.

Of course one of the common arguments I hear is this: “But aren’t we all waking up now? Aren’t many people evolving into the traits that Indigos carry?” Ahh! Good question. And yes, there is an answer. Many humans are indeed waking up now. The ascension energies and process is like a tide that “lifts all boats.”

But here is the #1 criteria that I use (successfully, I believe) to help a person discern whether s/he is one of those evolving and waking up, or if s/he is Indigo. After you consider the traits and characteristics that many indigos share, ask yourself this one simple question: “Have you always been this way? Or have you changed as you have grown and developed yourself?”

If you have always been this way, you are most likely Indigo, regardless of how old you are now.

If you have evolved and developed these characteristics over time, then probably you are not.

The New Children disdain labels and don’t really like being set apart. Let us who are adults accept ourselves for who and what we are with the same grace.

If you recognize yourself now as an Adult Indigo, however, welcome to you! I am honored and happy to meet you. I hope you will contact me and introduce yourself; I’d love to hear from you.

We truly live in an amazing time. Whether you acknowledge yourself as Indigo or not, I appreciate your Light and thank you for adding your Love to a world that needs all of your special gifts.

Wonder whether or not you are an Indigo? This question is coming up more and more, as people learn about Indigo children, teens, and — yes — adults.

You are probably the best person to answer this question — and you can take our free assessment to see where you fall on a spectrum of traits that most indigos have — but to help you figure it out, here’s what I think about it.

Even though the world started hearing about Indigos in the 1990’s. they did not just start coming in then. Some of us have been here a while, preparing the way for others and doing our own work. So yes, you can be an adult Indigo. Now there are so many of us it’s hard to ignore!

Many Adult Indigos have some of the following characteristics (according to another Adult Indigo, Wendy H. Chapman ):

• Are intelligent, even if you didn’t have had top grades.

• Are very creative and enjoy making things, whether that’s art, music, poetry, math, or something else.

• Always need to know WHY, especially why you are being asked to do something.

• Felt disgusted with the required and repetitious work in school, wanting something more meaningful.

• Were rebellious in school by refusing to do homework and rejecting authority of teachers, OR seriously wanted to rebel, but didn’t DARE, usually due to parental pressure.

• May have experienced early feelings of existential depression or helplessness. “These may have ranged from sadness to utter despair. Suicidal feelings while still in high school or younger are not uncommon in the Indigo Adult,” says Chapman.

• Have difficulty in service-oriented jobs. Indigos resist authority and hierarchical systems of employment. “Waiting on others” would not exactly be a dream job for an Indigo!

• Prefer cooperative efforts, leadership positions, or working alone. Subordinate positions seem to grate on your nerves — and don’t even try to patronize you, or watch out.

• Have deep empathy for others, yet will not tolerate stupidity. (I can’t tell you how many Indigo clients tell me how much other people’s “stupidity” disturbs them!)

• May be extremely emotionally sensitive including crying at the drop of a hat (no shielding). Or you may be the opposite and show no expression of emotion (full shielding).

• May have trouble with RAGE. It just seems to erupt, often when you least expect it. And you don’t like having those feelings, either. But there you are.

• Have trouble with systems you consider broken or ineffective ie. political, educational, medical, and legal. (Well. . . are there any systems that really ARE working these days???) Indigos tend to tell it like it is — even if that’s not very popular. And it can get you into trouble! (But that may not stop you from having your say and at least making an attempt to right things, as you see it.)

• Alienation from or anger with politics — feeling your voice won’t count and that the outcome really doesn’t mattter. Feeling ineffectual can lead to apathy and despair. Your “game” is to empower yourself — and others — to make the difference you came here to make.

• Frustration with or rejection of the traditional American dream: 9-5 career, marriage, 2.5 children, house with white picket fence, etc. That just doesn’t appeal to you, but you may not be sure what some other good alternatives are for you. (Coaching can help you with that part sometimes. . . )

• Anger at rights being taken away, fear and/or fury at “Big Brother watching you.” You have a pronounced “Injustice” Button pinned to your skin — and it’s easily targeted by others. Your job is to try to keep that button away from others as much as you can — and to find effective actions you can take when it’s activated by something outside you.

• You feel a burning desire to do something to change and improve the world — but you may be at a loss for what exactly to do. You may have trouble identifying your path — or even trying to imagine whether or not you need one.

• From a young age, have an intense interest in everything spiritual — a natural curiosity — and deep connection to Source, regardless of how your family-of-origin religious beliefs may have confused the topic for you. You may also have psychic abilities beyond what others experience. Often these traits emerge at a very young age (and hopefully were nurtured rather than ridiculed.)

• Had few if any Indigo role models. Now, of course, that’s all changed — but for those of us born in the 1940’s or 50’s, there weren’t any role models around to look toward for guidance or help.

• Have strong intuition, whether you call that being psychic or not. And you know that you can usually rely upon it. And do.

• Random behavior pattern or mind style — (symptoms that are similar to Attention Deficit Disorder); may have trouble focusing on assigned tasks, may jump around in conversations. But YOU are tracking it all!

• May be electrically sensitive such as watches not working and street lights going out as you move under them, electrical equipment malfunctioning and lights blowing out. Probably long ago you got used to this — although it still isn’t very convenient.

• May have awareness of other dimensions and parallel realities. If so, unless you can find someone with whom you can discuss these things, it contributes to your sense of yourself as somewhat different from other people.

• Sexually are very expressive and inventive OR may reject sexuality in boredom or with intention of achieving higher spiritual connection. You may explore alternate types of sexuality, without any particular sense of judgment about it.

• Seek meaning to your life and understanding about the world through religion or spirituality, spiritual groups and books, self-help groups and books — or any ways that you can.

• If you find balance you may become a very strong, healthy, happy individual — and a role model for others, both Indigo and ordinary.

These are my observations — shared by many other Adult/Elder Indigos. I hope they help you to understand yourself or a loved one better — and to take additional steps to be living your life in joy and peace.

For more information about Indigo children, teens, and adults, visit www.metagifted.org.

If you want to speak with someone who understands, send me a message through the blog to arrange a free, no-obligation consultation of up to 30 minutes,

And thanks for sharing your Light here on this planet!